'Sounds like a YOU problem! : Pregnant Wife Snaps As Chronic Procrastinator Husband Comes Up With Yet Another Excuse On Why He Didn't Deliver On His Promise To Help With Housework

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    Font - Posted by u/Traditional_Row_4956 21 hours ago AITA for saying "that sounds like a you problem"?
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    Font - My husband is a chronic procrastinator. He has ADHD and I'm sure that plays a role but I will say that it mostly comes down to things like chores. When it comes to leisure activities, he doesn't procrastinate at all and usually rushes me.
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    Font - So basically he will say things like "I will do the dishes when I get back from the store" and then never do them because he forgets. Or if trash needs to be taken out, he will say "wake me up in the morning when you get the kids on the bus and I will do it then" but then never does. If the
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    Font - house needs cleaning and I start getting to work, he will try to convince me to wait a few hours so he can "help" but if I do wait, it never gets done. And it truly is him forgetting. It's not deliberate by any means. Even if he is the one cooking dinner that night he will usually forget that he's cooking and randomly say "Oh shit"
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    Font - and run out of the room at a buck 10 so he doesn't burn the food because he truly forgot he was cooking at all (I always remember and am super aware of everything so obviously I would never let it get to a point of disaster- BUT I do make a point to not say anything unless I absolutely have to).
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    Font - Anyways, this is how it's always been. I'm so used to it at this point that it doesn't really bother me. I actually enjoy cleaning but some days the help would be nice and he does help when he actually remembers. He's not useless by any means and he does absolutely try to take the load off my hands. He truly just forgets often. But
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    Font - frustrated. I'm 20 weeks pregnant. Getting a little slow on movement and increasingly tired and dare I say lazy myself. I still do my part but I admittedly do not want to. Hormones and fatigue are a bitch. But anyways, I got in a deep clean mode like two days ago and started going ham on this house. My husband said he
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    Font - wanted to help me but had an appointment to detail a vehicle first. So he leaves. The appointment should have only been an hour but he came back in roughly two and a half. Turns out he knew the guy from school and they were catching up. By the time he got home, the house was sparkling
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    Font - clean. He says something like "Shit, I should have came home sooner. I got caught up and forgot." So I said "That sounds like a you problem". He asked what I meant and I said "You forgetting everything is a you problem. I've dealt with it for years
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    Font - and I no longer want to hear it used as an excuse." I was frustrated. My back was killing me and I just wanted to sit and enjoy my book in peace without being disturbed. He shook his head and said "That was uncalled for" and walked off. AITA?
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    Font - Individual_Ad_9213 21 hr. ag · Craptain [184] NTA. Actually, it was called for. He can and should take steps to deal with his ADHD. You have been dealing with the consequences of his ADHD and memory issues. In a sense, you're enabling his failure to do something about them.
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    Font - With an infant/child soon to be joining your family, it's past time for him to do something, even if it's to learn memory management tricks. Otherwise, he can't be trusted to be alone with the new baby. Deal with this before something really bad happens.
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    Font - Erica15782 19 hr. ago · edited 9 hr. ago ● That's exactly what timers and calendars and reminders on your phone are for. Not taking steps to adjust is super annoying.
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    Font - I have some of the dumbest reminders in my phone, but that's because I have forgotten important things before.

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